Yes, it’s time again for the Insecure Writer’s Support Group: a monthly blog hop of writers at various stages of the process who get transparent and talk about the struggle…writing, publishing, editing, getting motivated, etc. We’re here to encourage and support each other. For more info, click here. The fabulous hosts for this month are: Elizabeth Seckman, Lisa Buie-Collard, Chrys Fey, and Michelle Wallace!
So, this is one post that’s a little random but not really, because it’s also writing-related. I recently finished school and am in the process of sitting for a board exam in order to become official. I have cohorts that have already taken and passed this exam and have received job offers. I’m still waiting on authorization to schedule the exam.
So, while they’re all:
Okay, not really…but maybe just a little bit. And it’s not because I don’t wish them well. I do. It’s just sometimes…
On the writing side, I’ve talked about getting stuck with a WITDLOAP (work-in-too-damn-long-of-a-process), while I have writing friends who have written, not one, but two, maybe even more novels in the same time span. I know, I know…you only set yourself up for failure when you make comparisons, and I often have to tell myself: Trust the timing. Trust the process. When it’s your time, it’s your time. Be patient. Keep working at it.
I inherently understand that comparisons are tricks of the devil, but every now and again, I get caught out there. (‘Like for real, you gave the job to the girl who forgot her professional work ready pumps and did the interview in blue snakeskin iridescent club hopping, street walking knee boots but couldn’t even send me a ‘thanks but no thanks letter’? Yeah, that’s a true story. Happened to me many years ago.) What can I say? I’m human and the side eye, no chill reaction is real.
So, what’s a writer (or a recent graduate) to do when it seems like everyone around you is moving at a warp speed and you’re moving like that slug in ‘Flushed Away’?
- Yes, it’s a total cliche, but a positive attitude goes far. Attitude can make the difference in feeling like you’re moving like a slug and actually moving like a slug. I had one classmate who spoke so negatively throughout the entire program, I was not surprised that when we graduated, homegirl was ghost. Say an affirmation. Meditate. Believe that you are indeed the best romance/drama/dystopian/chick-lit/fantasy/horror/(fill in your genre) writer…like EVAH.
- Get a cheerleader (or several) on your team. Because sometimes, you need to rant, cry, cuss, and scream (sometimes all at the same time). Your cheerleaders remind you that you are effin’ awesome and that all things will come together in due time.
- Be a cheerleader yourself. This is twofold. Because you have to pat yourself on the back sometimes AND when you encourage others when they have their “I can’t believe they hired the bitch wearing the hooker boots” moments, they will do it for you.
So, trust in the process. Don’t try to force that story for sake of being published or even being finished. Trust in the timing. Yes, he may say he sold a gazillion books in a month and your sales report barely has a rhythm (maybe it flatlined), but it doesn’t make you any less kick-ass at your craft. (Besides, he may be manipulating the data).
Again, trust the process. Trust the timing. Stay true to your craft.