#IWSG: So, what are you feeding?

InsecureWritersSupportGroupIt’s the first Wednesday of the Month! Time for the monthly edition of Insecure Writers Support Group. The purpose this group is support and encourage those of us in that writing struggle. The co-hosts for this month are: Β Chemist Ken,Β Suzanne Sapseed, and Shannon Lawrence!Β To get more deets about IWSG (and to sign up), click here.

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Insecurities. We all struggle with them. If you haven’t struggled with at least one thing that makes you feel insecure, you’re getting MAJOR side-eye right now.

A little Prince Rogers Nelson side-eye for you...Source: eonline.com

A little Prince Rogers Nelson side-eye for you…Source: eonline.com

I have a friend who is struggling in school. Just having recently been in her shoes, I feel her pain. Being a writer who has often struggled with the process of writing, I doubly feel it. A few of us from the same class have done our best to keep her encouraged, but her woes are redundant…I’m at the point where I want to say:

Girl! Get it together already! Source: tumblr.com

Girl! Get it together already! Source: tumblr.com

Pep talks have been given aplenty, but when you’re feeling REALLY insecure about something, anything, be it a story you’re working on that just isn’t gelling, a WIP that you really just want to be done with already, licking your wounds because that book hasn’t been flying off the virtual shelves, or something not writing-related, like struggling with a class, there comes a time where you’ve got to have that Come To Jesus meeting with yourself. And ask yourself, “What am I feeding the most?”

  • Am I giving in to that fear of failure? Or the one that’s whispering “Keep pushing, you can do it”?
  • Am I drowning in self-pity because this plot/character/life-event isn’t going the way I want? Or can I just shake it off and keep it moving.
  • Am I doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result? (Yeah, that’s called insanity)
  • Am I trying everything that works for everybody else instead of discovering what works for me and going with that?

I truly believe that if we listen to the voice that says “You can’t do this” more than the one that says, “You’ve got this.” then the one we give more attention to is the one that wins. Believe you’ll never finish that story? Then yeah, that’s what’s going to happen.

Insecurities are real. That’s why there are groups like IWSG. However, we can’t let the insecurities have power over us. Feed the voice that says to keep pushing. It may be a whisper now, but keep feeding it. Eventually, it’ll get stronger (and louder) and will drown out the one that keeps you in doubt.

Shake it off, baby Source: giphy.com

So…shake it off, baby
Source: giphy.com

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7 comments

  1. I totally agree! It is good to have doubts – it makes you think if you can do it differently or better. But constant insecurities and negativism is not healthy for the body and soul.
    Suzanne
    IWSG Co-host in March πŸ™‚

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  2. It’s difficult not to give into insecurities. Everyone has them – it’s part of life, but the trick is being stronger. Betting on yourself, rather than against yourself. Great post. (love the Bridesmaids gif!)

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