writing insecurities

#IWSG: Writer, Thou Art Loosed!


The Insecure Writers Support Group is comprised of writers at all stages of the process who come together monthly to share their insecurities and offer support to one another. The cohosts for June are…M. Pax, Tracy Jo, Patricia Lynne, Rachna Chhabria, Feather Stone, and Randi Lee!

For more information on IWSG, check out the other writers participating, or to sign up, click here.


…so I needed to have a Come to Jesus meeting (CTJM) with myself recently. The primary reason why I love IWSG so much is because the group reminds me that I’m not alone in my writing struggles. However, this group is open about theirs and nobody’s fronting.

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My CTJM was about what tends to hold me up when I’m writing. It ain’t the first time I’ve been to this meeting, either. Once again, my issue is writing without abandon AND wanting it to be perfect.

So of course, I got caught out there. I let the voices tell me what I ought to be writing. I wrote another post about what voice we feed the most, either the one that says “you can’t/you shouldn’t/you ought to” or the one that says “You got this/keep going/it’ll be fine” Because I let the former voice be louder than the latter, I wound up doing exactly what I wanted to avoid: trying to put my writing in a neat little box that conformed to the expectations of others but was not true to me and definitely not true to these characters. Therefore, I walked away from this meeting with these tidbits:

  1. Drafts are called drafts for a reason…that first round doesn’t have to be perfect.
  2. Be true to the character(s). Let them be who they are and let them tell the story.
  3. Be true to YOUR process. Don’t get caught out there trying to be like another writer. (This can apply to their style of writing, the speed in which they write, the genre, whatever)
  4. Give your imagination permission to come out with no restrictions. Like leave the gate wide open.
  5. Practice the art of as one of my favorite bloggers Luvvie of Awesomely Luvvie puts it, “Being a giver of no dambs”.

Hopefully, if I follow these tips, I’ll no longer have a standing invite to this particular CTJM.